Personally, I always prefer to go it alone. For a number of reasons, though I’m not sure how to rank them, I just feel best when I’ve done something I’ve set out to do on my own steam. Afterwards… I tend to think that’s just stupid. I go back and I review my decisions to tough things out alone and I ask myself “What were you thinking, why didn’t you just get help??”. Doing things on your own is great but there are times when stepping up to the plate means knowing what you’re capable of and making the right choices at the right times.

I’m not sure if I feel like asking for help is cheating, or I’m just less proud of myself, but for whatever reason I’m quite stubborn when it comes to it. I end up putting a lot of pressure on myself and yeah I get the job done but afterwards I feel silly thinking there may have been a better way. I guess I also want to avoid taking advantage of the people around me. But that’s just silly in its own, right? Well either way – I’m going to try to put my ego aside a bit more often from now on and ask for help when a little aid can go a long way.

The reason this is on my mind is that we’re working on a project that I simply need help with. So I’ve had to ask for what help I can get and the truth is, help came. Some of it might not be the answer to all my ‘prayers’ but it doesn’t matter. Help arrives if you simply let it know it’s needed. I’m quite thankful to those that have helped and everyone seems to shrug it off, saying it’s “no big deal”. People say that, but I’m also starting to think it’s true because after some thought I realize… I say that, too! And I usually mean it.

I guess the point is if you’re as stubborn as I am about this sort of thing.. forget about it.  You’re not taking advantage of people that would like to help you.  In a way, you can’t.  You may even be surprised or honoured or simply glad at the outcome of asking for help.  So do what ever it takes to make yourself comfortable with it and ask for help.  The measure of a man is not only his capacity for doing but also his capacity for knowing what he cannot do… at least without help ;).

Thanks for reading,

David Dvir